In all discussion both parties assume that they are right. The ego, arrogance makes us believe the other this wrong and that only we are owners of the truth. In this world there are such bad communication, so many words whose meaning is understood differently, even the silences are interpreted incorrectly and on that basis arrive at conclusions that often hurt to loved ones are handled. The ego also loves the role of victim. Always is the other which offended us, is always another who shouted us, is always another that missed us respect, therefore we believe that we have the right to offend, shouting, disrespect as a defense mechanism. The arrogance caused by ego prevents us from accepting the fact that the other party could be the reason. Rather than strive to understand the point of view of the other party, we look for more reasons that sustain and support our approach in our intellect. One who has more ego, more eagerness to domain, who wants to be the protagonist of each meeting, he who want to have the last word in any debate is that eventually most suffers because you can not detach from your ego.
It is so hard to get rid of the ego, since this produces enjoyment. The ego, for the spirit is not imposed, invades it and creates a kind of dependence. Dependence of the praise, recognition, the applause, wants to know is needed. In the case of ego dependence is very strong. The person puts a guise of authority and this head costume is precisely which makes it very difficult to integrate the love in his words and therefore very difficult to always be the master of himself. People are left to carry very easily by the role of victim, susceptibility, irascibility, etc., believing that they are master when in reality they are slaves of his ego.